Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Day 3

  1. I'm grateful for rainy days that make the sky such an awesome color and clean up the air.
  2. I'm grateful to be working at a place where I might be able to learn some really cool things.
  3. I'm grateful that I was able to go and test drive a Mini.
On Saturday, I decided to get a few things done, and since I've wanted to test drive a Mini for a while to confirm if I wanted to buy one, I went to do that on Saturday.  When I walked into the Mini dealership, there was a salesperson right at the front of the store who asked me what I was looking for.  I told him I wanted a test drive, and he said sure.  He had to get some information from me, which he put in his computer, I'm sure to contact me later about the Mini to see if he could pursue a sale, but he was friendly and nice and didn't push me about anything.  He talked to me about the Mini that he owns and he answered my questions about stuff on the website that I was curious about.  He explained that the version of the JCW (John Cooper Works) Mini that he bought has a supercharger instead of the turbocharger that the JCW now has, and I got to ask him about the sport suspension versus the JCW sport suspension.

After that, he grabbed the keys to the Mini and a license plate.  I don't remember what color the car was, but I remember I was really confused by the key, because it doesn't have the traditional metal key portion. It's a key that's mostly just a circle of plastic that you put into a circular opening in the dashboard.  When you want to start the car, you press the start button while holding down the brake.  When I first started driving the car, I kept hitting the brakes too hard because I'm used to the brakes in Dan's truck, which you have to press pretty hard to get a large heavy truck to stop.  The Mini's brakes are pretty sensitive, and it's a small car, so I was making some very jarring stops.  The salesperson then took me through some of the roads in Salt Lake and turned on the sport mode for the car and let me play with the acceleration in the car.  He got me on the freeway and even reminded me to punch it when we were on the on-ramp.  He helped me use the windshield wipers since it was raining and I wasn't familiar enough with the car to do it myself.

I really liked the mood lighting button that he showed me in the car.  You could change the wall lights, as well as the lights in the door handles and a couple of other places to a different color.  I also really liked the blinker settings.  You could set the blinkers to turn on until you completed a turn, or you could set them to blink three times and then turn off.  I really liked how well the acceleration was able to push the car from a stop and how small the car felt.

When we got the car back to the dealership, I was really happy to note that the salesperson wasn't pushy at all.  He just checked to make sure I had all the information that I wanted and needed and sent me on my way.

Monday, April 16, 2012

Day 2
Grateful

  1. I'm grateful that Dan makes me laugh now.
  2. I'm grateful that Virgil is starting to come out of his kennel without me having to pull him out.
  3. I'm grateful that people at work care enough to worry about confusing me with the new person in the office with my same name.
Dan was talking to me on messenger this morning and told me about how he liked it when I used the sarcasm emoticon because he always just wanted me to be coolly dismissive when he was doing something dumb.  I used to get nervous.  I am grateful that I am feeling comfortable enough with him now that I don't even notice the difference.  Things he says can be funny now instead of me taking them seriously and being afraid.

Sunday, April 15, 2012

Day 1
I'm trying to start out by following the advice from the Ted talk in my last post.  I'm supposed to write down 3 things I'm grateful for and journal about one positive experience.  The exercise was supposed to be walking the dogs, but we went to the park and had a rough time with Dante, so there wasn't too much exercise involved.  I will be walking the dogs daily, though, so that should help.  Then I need to meditate and do a random act of kindness.  Not necessarily in that order.

  1. I'm grateful for Dan listening to my worries about taking Dante to the dog park and having Dante get scared and snappy.
  2. I'm grateful that Dan is ok with me finding my own way to (or from) the church without pushing me.
  3. I'm grateful that I could stay home and have a nice day with Dan.

I came home from the dog park today and I felt like kind of a failure.  I'm trying to make sure that Dante and Virgil get enough experience with other dogs and people that they'll be able to calm down when we're out and about.  Though I really thought that the park was more for Virgil than for Dante.  Dante seemed to be doing great when we went to the park the past couple of weeks.  He'd run and play with the other dogs and mostly only had a problem when he was on leash or behind a fence, but there were quite a few dogs in the park today and a lot of them were bigger than Dante.  And one particular husky who seemed very pushy.  She got Dante pretty scared and he started snapping at the other dogs and growling.  I got them all separated with help from their owners and we walked around the park some, but then that same husky came back to try to play again and got them all riled up again.  At that point, I decided to leave, but I felt like I had failed because I've been trying to have experiences for Dante where he wasn't scared so that he could calm down in stressful situations.

So I came home and I talked to Dan about it, and he told me that I had done a good job today.  That I had realized that Dante was overwhelmed and got him out of the park so that he could calm down.  At first he told me that he was proud of me, and it made me feel better, but I still had feelings that seemed unresolved.  I kept talking about them and Dan talked about how I didn't let Dante get scared and snappy.  That was when my good feeling that I had gotten from Dan's compliment went away.  But Dan was able to tell that I had gotten scared and he was a very good listener.  I told him that I had allowed Dante to get snappy and I talked about my fears of not being able to help Dante be ok with other dogs and my worry that Dante would always be a lot of work to have around.  He was able to keep from solving like he sometimes does and allowed me to work through my worries.  He also reassured me that even though Dante had gotten snappy, he still thought I had done a good job at the park.  I'm very grateful that he has helped me understand that when you grow, you always make mistakes.  I'm hanging on to the tenuous belief that I am doing the best that could be expected with Dante and Virgil, even though I'm afraid that I'm doing it all wrong sometimes.  I'm grateful that Dan believes in me, even when I'm not sure he should.

I also noticed that Dante and Virgil checked each other to make sure they were ok after the first time the dog pack got riled up. It really warmed my heart to see them acting like a real pack even though Virgil is still plainly too scared of Dante to play with him when we're at home.
Small Changes Ripple Outward
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Creating lasting positive change
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